Adopting Parents

As an adoptive parent, Robin is especially sensitive to the very emotional nature of the adoption process. She has a “hands on” approach, will personally respond to your phone calls, and will attend diligently and professionally to all aspects of your case. Her goal is that you succeed in your adoption with a minimum of risk, both financial and emotional, whether you are single or a couple, same sex or heterosexual.

Robin represents New York and New Jersey adoptive parents in the adoption of newborns from across the United States. In most of the adoptions, the adoptive parents connect with a pregnant woman through advertising, as well as Robin’s broad outreach network. Robin also handles agency and stepparent adoptions of children born in the United States and re-adoption of children after adoption abroad.
Private or agency? In-state or out-of-state? Robin will help you choose the best method of adoption to suit your needs. New Jersey and New York residents can do a nationwide search for a baby, including attempts in your state. The most practical and effective approach is to focus on finding a baby available for adoption and then to determine the best way to adopt him or her, either privately or through an adoption agency. Usually, you will adopt your child in the court where you reside, whether your child is born locally or in another state. Luckily, New Jersey’s and New York’s adoption laws are among the nation’s most favorable for adoptive parents.
Although there are no guarantees, most of my clients adopt in a year to eighteen months. By holding your hand throughout the adoption and monitoring progress and problems, I can help you succeed quickly and safely.
Robin’s goal is that you succeed in your adoption with a minimum of risk, both financial and emotional. She will approve and monitor all expenses, which will be paid either through her attorney trust account or a licensed agency. Robin will help you make an adoption plan that fits into your budget and will try to limit the cost of the adoption before the baby is in your home. Although you can pay for the birth mother’s medical expenses, most birth mothers qualify for Medicaid and some have medical insurance. Your medical insurance will cover the baby from birth, but not the birth mother. In addition, you can pay for the birth mother’s counseling, reasonable living expenses during the pregnancy and recovery, and legal expenses. If you proceed with an agency adoption, you will incur the cost of an agency placement fee in addition to Robin’s legal fee.
Robin will help you come up with a nationwide marketing strategy for your adoption so that you can connect with a birth mother through your efforts and her outreach. She will assist you to develop a plan to advertise and network to locate birth mothers throughout the United States. Robin will work with you to create a website (which you will also print in a book format called a profile) that birth mothers can access online to learn about the kind of home you can offer a child.
Robin will help you evaluate whether the birth mother is pregnant and committed to an adoption. Robin will speak with the birth mother and send her a social and medical history questionnaire and an authorization for release of her prenatal medical records. Once Robin receives the completed questionnaire and signed medical release, she will obtain the birth mother’s prenatal medical records and forward them to you with the social and medical history. You will have your doctor review the medical information and advise you about the baby’s health. If you wish to proceed with an adoption, Robin will help the birth mother obtain legal representation and counseling. Robin will be in close contact with you and the birth mother’s attorney throughout the pregnancy to look for signs that the birth mother continues to be committed to the adoption.
Robin will obtain the birth mother’s social and medical history (and if possible, the birth father’s). Robin will also obtain the birth mother’s prenatal medical records from the birth mother’s obstetrician and the baby’s medical records from the hospital. The birth mother will be asked to undergo HIV and drug and alcohol testing whenever possible.
Robin has adoptions in her practice which range from extremely open to closed, but most are semi-open. In the totally open adoptions, the birth parents and adoptive parents exchange identifying information and meet in person, not only before the adoption, but over the years. Most adoptive parents and birth parents do not wish to visit with each other after the adoption. In the semi-open adoptions most birth parents want to meet the adoptive parents on a first name basis before placing the child for adoption and wish to exchange letters and photos over the years via email, texting, or a confidential website. As the years progress, the child’s best interest governs the contact.